• Do you love to win?
• Do you love that feeling of Yeah me!
• How often do you experience that feeling in your life?
• Would you like to experience it even more?
• What do you think it would take for you to experience it?

Winning and losing

Some people think that winning means others have to lose.

Some people think they are entitled to win and when they do – they think “oh well that’s just the way it should be”. They may experience arrogance and superiority rather than joy.

When these same people do not win, they are upset, not with themselves, but with everyone else, for you see, they believe it is everyone else’s fault that they are not winning. They feel victimized by the situation, by other people and/or by circumstances.

There are still others who believe they don’t deserve to win. That there is something inherently wrong with them and they never even attempt to rise to the occasion and give life their best shot.

Many of these people wind up in dependency relationships in order to have someone else take care of them. Some people end up on welfare or some other socially- subsidized programs and reinforce their belief that they do not deserve the good life.

There are others that look at the people who seem to be winning and they are jealous of them. They sometimes even go as far as to despise them. They don’t know how or why these people are winning and, rather than attempt to find out and duplicate it, they sit back in disgust instead.

There are still others who watch people win – they are happy for them – but they too sit back and continue doing what they’ve always done and never win themselves.

When I think a thought I then feel a feeling. Every opinion I have is actually a thought. Every attitude I have is a thought and every belief I hold is a thought. It is my thought process, the feelings I feel because of my thoughts, and my subsequent actions that determine whether I am a winner or not.

If your current belief system, your feelings, and your actions are that of a non-winner, are you interested in changing that?

If your current belief system, your feelings associated with it, and your actions are that of a winner, are you interested in enhancing that?

Usually winners say YES because they give life their best and are always open to avenues of learning more in order to be even more effective.

Non-winners usually think things like:

• What’s the use?
• What difference would it make anyway?
• I’ll just fail anyway.
• I can’t be bothered.
• Nothing ever works for me.
• It’s not my fault.
• I’ve tried before.
• No one really cares.

However, every now and then someone who is currently experiencing life as a non-winner gets a sense that maybe THIS TIME it will be different. Maybe THIS TME something will work!

Well, hopefully you are going inside and turning up the volume on your intuition (that internal voice that speaks to you) because I have a message for all of you.

Winning doesn’t necessarily mean that I am awarded the gold medal for the race.
Winning doesn’t necessarily mean when we play monopoly – I end up with the most real estate and money.
Winning doesn’t necessarily mean that when we disagree I get you to change your mind. All of these things are nice BUT NOT NECESSARY to win in life.

Winning is about ‘What’s in it for me?’

Winning is about why I want to do whatever it is I say I want to do.

Winning is about telling myself the truth about what I want and don’t want, about what I like and don’t like, about what I want to include in my life and what I would rather delete, and then ACTING ON IT.

Winning is about the feelings associated with what is important to me in my life, from an internal, core place.

Some people win all the medals, they buy all the clothes, they have all kinds of money, they own several companies; they seem so successful and get all the awards, and yet, many of them do not feel fulfilled inside.

Many of them would trade it all in, in a second, for a relationship that works, one in which they actually experience love and joy.

Many would trade it all in for a job or career through which they could connect with people and relate to them rather than just be the boss.

Others would trade it all away just to be in a position of contributing meaningfully to the good of mankind.

Others would trade it all in for good health.

At the core of who we are – at that innermost part of us – we innately know we are here for a reason.

Many people never get in touch with their reason for being. They get so caught up in the busyness of life, they never find the time to look inward and decide what the meaning in their life really is.

Live your life!

Once I am in touch with my reason for being — my contribution that I am here to make — AND I LIVE IT, I am winning. I am experiencing fulfillment.

I may, or may not, be judged by society’s standards as successful; however, I feel fulfilled, I feel alive, I feel valuable; and, because I am living my truth, I feel inspired. I become one of the people who are excited about getting up in the morning because I know I can and will create the experience of fulfillment, for myself, in my life today. I also know that by doing whatever I do and by being however I am, I will also positively impact the lives of others at some level.

I begin to role model possibility. I begin to role model a willingness to show up, to express joy, to remain focussed, and to include others in my life. People begin to say WOW, if she can do it, maybe I can do it.

You have what you need!

Each of us has everything (ability-wise) that is required for us to live a life of fulfillment and to contribute to others.

Certainly, it may serve us to learn more, to have a few more skills, to pay attention in order to become more aware of what works and what doesn’t work. It would certainly serve us to pay attention to the way or ways we are currently showing up in our lives and to determine whether they are constructive or destructive. If the way or ways we are currently showing up are constructive we are honouring ourselves and others and we feel good about ourselves. When we are constructive we are adding to our self esteem. If the way or ways we are currently showing up are not constructive we are not honouring ourselves – and most likely not honouring others either – and we end up eroding our self esteem.

Let’s use the example of ATTENTION. If I really like attention, and I am consciously aware that I do, there are many ways I could experience attention constructively. For example, in my case, I could lead courses and inspire people, I could be a guest speaker at an event that I support, or I could play with my grandchildren and have a lot of fun. In all of these instances I would be getting attention and it would be considered to be constructive because it is adding to the experience of both myself and others. If, on the other hand, I am choosing (most often unconsciously) destructive ways of getting attention I might be late for an appointment or for a course I am leading. I would certainly get lots of attention because of my lateness; however, I would not have added much in a constructive way to the experience of others or, for that matter, to my own experience. I would end up eroding some of my self esteem without necessarily noticing it.

What is it that you would say is important for you to experience? Why is that?

How are you experiencing the things that you say are important to you? Are you being constructive in your actions and words?

We are born to experience, to become, to evolve. I do not believe that there is any right way or wrong way to experience life. I do believe however, that there are constructive and destructive ways of experiencing life, and I feel more alive, joyful, and better about myself when I choose constructive ways.

It took me several years to get clear about what I wanted and to take the steps necessary to create that in my life. However, in that process, I proved to myself that it is through my own beliefs and feelings that I attract what I judge to be good and what I judge to be bad into my life.

There are still times in my life when I recognize that I have attracted situations that I am not feeling good about. When I become conscious of the fact that I have attracted people and situations that I do not feel good about, I begin the process, consciously, of refocusing on what it is that I do want and those situations and people begin to disappear from my life.

I am absolutely certain that each of us is on this planet for a reason and once we are willing to OWN all of the experiences in our lives, and accept WHAT IS – we can begin to focus on what it is that we truly want, something that is a vibrational match for the Essential Energy that we are, and start creating that instead of just recreating what it is that we don’t want over and over again.

It can take some time to become clear about the results that we have attracted that we no longer wish to continue to experience in our lives.
Once we become clear, it would serve us to act on what we know to be true rather than go on indefinitely pretending not to know. It can feel difficult sometimes to let go of people and situations that are not a vibratory match to our Essential Energy; however, at some point in time, continuing to participate with them becomes increasingly difficult because our energy is no longer feeling free.

As long as we remain focussed on what we don’t want, and remain resistant to what is, all we ever do is attract more negative situations, people and events into our lives.

We are creative beings and we are always in the process of attracting into our experience something that is a vibratory match to the energy that we are, or have been, exuding.

The most important step is to know, with certainty, what I want.
Then it would serve me to imagine myself having it or experiencing it, so that I can (at least in my imagination) feel what it is like.
When I do that my energy is matching or aligning with the result I want. The next important step is to allow it to show up.

Many people have experienced trauma and pain in their lives and some of their negative self-talk results from those experiences. We often develop beliefs that do not serve us in creating what we want in our lives from some of these painful or traumatic events. Because these beliefs and negative self-talk carry negative emotions with them they are in our way of using the Law of Attraction effectively and deliberately. These negative feelings prevent us from allowing what we really want to come to us.

It is important to deal with the negativity in our lives – both thoughts and emotions -and release them so that we can get out of our way emotionally and start attracting what we want.

I choose to attract consciously and deliberately.

I intend to be one of the people who leave the planet thinking YEAH ME! I did it, I had it, I was it, whatever all of that means to me - rather than the person who leaves justifying why they did not experience what mattered to them.

Who do you choose to be?

It is all choice. Life is a great game; and, once we know the rules, we get to play consciously.

Whose life is it? MINE.

Who is the ONLY person who can offer the gift that I am here to offer, my way? ME.

When is a good time to begin?
NOW - now is the only time I know for sure I have.

Many people allow all kinds of precious NOW moments to slip by and they attract by default (with no conscious choice having been made in the attraction process). Others get clear and focus their attention and energy in the direction of what they want and attract consciously and deliberately.

What kind of person do you choose to be?

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